My son and his ex girlfriend lived to gether until their child was 7 mos. old. They were 18 and 19 yrs old. ALthough mom was not a good mom and my son took care of the baby most of the time, the judge awarded her full physical custody and his 6 hours a week. Eventually he was able to get her to agree to more and they have a legal agreement now for him to have full weekend every week. Mom has been verbally abusive, has interferred with visits, accused of first physical abuse and now sexual. CPS has proved that it is unfounded. Mom is increasingly hostile and recently asked for visits to be dropped because she was having a hard time potty training the now 3 yr old. COurt denied as they had agreed on order to work with mediator. SO now false sex abuse accusations gained her a 2 week relief from abuse for son. She is asking for limited, supervised visits. AGain cps has disproved allegations.
How can the dad get at least 50/50? Mom is using child as a tool to control and this
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Nothing you can do except be there for your son.
Just remember, there are three sides to every story, his side, her side, & the truth.
The judge will put the child (children) in the hands of mom unless mom is in jail or unfit.
It’s hard for you to see your son go through this & your grandchild looses too.
Just be strong & be there for your boy.
Get a better lawyer.
Sometimes the system doesn’t always work.
Document EVERYTHING!!
Then you will have proof of what is going on
Good luck
You need to find a way to prove that she is doing harm. That’s the only way I would see that your son would stand a chance to get his child. Usually custody is awarded to the mother, so that’s not really a big surprise. Find a way to document everything that she’s doing that is abusive towards the child (mentally, physically or otherwise) and take it to a lawyer. You’re going to need some legal advise in order for your son to get custody.
This is where a good lawyer is worth his/her weight in gold. Ask everyone who has gone through child custody for a referral – sometimes the ex has the better lawyer. Have your son handle this, interviewing and hiring an attorney, and if you want to help, help pay, but this is HIS fight, you need to stay out of it. It will be better if they all see that he wants this, not that you are all “ganging up” on the ex.
Good luck!