She is two years old and afraid of sitting on the potty naked, but she doesn’t like to have a dirty toosh.
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wait til she’s ready….give her a month or two before you try again
something my mom did with me that worked was got me cute little underware with my favorite cartoon characters on them, and i didn’t want to make them “cry” if you get my drift, also she bribed me with m&m’s every time i did the deed i got 5 m&m’s worked like a charm.
Much as I hate to say it (I believe children should learn to use a big toilet), it sounds like you need to invest in a little potty chair. You know, one of those little stools for trainers. Then let her help you flush the contents down the big toilet.
MAYBE THE SEAT IS TOO COLD FOR HER LOL … TRY FINDING A VELOR MATERIAL AND PUT THAT KIND OF COVER ON IT
I believe you should wait till the child is emotionally ready, some kids aren’t really ready untill they’re three years old
If she is afraid pushing the issue will just make it harder.. wait a while and she will let you know in her own way that she is ready
if you potty train too soon there will be more problems, for example bedwetting and accidents
Let her s..t out of the pot until she has enough of her own s..t. Kids need to make their own decisions and see by themselves where is their interest. Her interest is too smell good and be clean.
I bought a little training chair and put it in the living room by the tv. Had my baby sit on it and get comfortable with it. Then we moved it into the bathroom. THat way he was comfortable and not scared of it. My older sister fell into a regular big person toilet and was very scared of the toilet for awhile. I also had “Potty Candy” in a tupperware container in the bathroom and when my boys went, they got a piece. (Just Skittles or something). Worked very well for us. Have a lot of patience!
There is a book, it is called “Potty Training in less than a day”. Worked wonders for my 2 year old son. Also Dr. Phil’s web page. They have a doll out that your daughter can help potty train, and then she might feel more comfortable going in the potty.
Join the club!!!! I am going through the same problem and everyone keeps telling me to be patient with my two year old son. I have, therefore, started going easy on him. He still can’t communicate if he needs to go to the potty. But I put him there at regular times and whether successful or not…..I take it easy. It seems some children take their own good time. So I guess you also take it easy and your little girl will be ready in no time. I have yet to see an an adult who is not potty-trained and still in diapers!!! So maybe there is some hope for us. What say????
I started out by buying a simple white potty that looked the closest to a regular toilet. No bells n’ whistles. Then I got her the “Feel N Learn” pull-ups which are great because when they are wet, they feel wet to the child. Then we had a “sticker” program. I would put her potty in front of the toilet and we would both go potty together. Every time she was successful, she got a sticker that she placed on the bathroom cupboard beside her potty chair. That way she was able to see the rewards of her efforts. And I also made a big effort to praise her really dramatically! Then we’d both empty her potty into the toilet and wave and say “bye-bye peepees/poopoos, thanks for coming out!” She’d sometimes just sit on the chair and “pretend” to potty just so she’d get a sticker! But she quickly figured out that she needed to produce visible results… It took about 2 months. Then I took her shopping and let her pick out her own underwear (Dora). She was so happy to wear them and very, very proud. She had a few accidents but I never made a big deal out of them to her. It got tricky when we went out because it’s important that as soon as said she had to potty, we had to pull over right away. I was sure NOT to fall back on the pullups just because we were out. It just prolongs the process. She was able to wear underwear during the day and a pullup at night. Then, eventually she lost the nightime pullup and I woke her at 2am and took her to the potty – every night for about a week. And then that was that.
Every child is different tho – the key is to make a big fuss when they go and not make a fuss if they don’t. Good luck with it.
i first tried to train my daughter at 1 1/2 years old, because she used to take off her diapers when they were soiled. i took that as a sign, but to no avail did she want to sit on the potty. i went out and got her a potty chair. from that time on, she did still ware diappers, but i would let her run loose with out one when we were home. every 1/2 hour or so we would take a trip to the bathroom…sometimes she went sometimes not. she would see me go, and when she did, i did make a big deal of giving her alot of praise. this happened ’til she turned 3, and then she went on her own. all children have their own “time” it takes patience, and sometimes practice. hope this helps.
u could try a star chart (one star every time she uses the potty) and offer a small non food gift when she gets so many stars. with my youngest child i bought several potties and left them around the house then waited till he got used to them, and heaped on praise when he did use them
Get her a little potty and take her with you whenever you have to go. Say, “I have to go potty,” take her, sit her on her little potty (her pants on or off), and make a big deal out of your going.
Read books about the potty.
Don’t make a big deal out of her going. Her going potty doesn’t matter. By you showing her, you are leading by example. Children are always more apt to follow your actions than your words!
Good Luck!
get her her own potty, put it next to yours. when you go potty, bring her in with you. she’s more than likely going to copy you sooner or later. once she’s comfortable sitting on the toilet, when you go to the bathroom, take her pants down and have her sit on her potty. one step at a time. don’t rush her, she’ll catch on, we all did – i think…
good luck.
Give her a little bit of time. My son actually liked the big potty better. I used a star chart and every time that he would go I would give him a star, and then when he got a certain amount I would buy him a small toy.
I gave my little cousin a bunch of stickers and told him he could keep them as long as he didn’t wet himself and went to the potty. That worked for him cause he liked stickers. My daughter on the other hand really enjoyed her princess undies and did’t ever want to get them dirty. Now this is just a shot in the dark but if she don’t like sitting there naked maybe its the seat itself. try lining it with toliet paper or seat cover that they have in public rest rooms. you can buy those at wal mart. It’s worth a shot
We have had to invest in a potty chair because my daughter is extremely short, however this may sound weird but she refuses to go poo in the potty unless Im sitting next to her doing my thing…..
How will we know when our child is ready for toilet training?
The main signs a child is ready for toilet training are:
• She can wait several hours before urinating, and, when she pees, she empties her bladder instead of urinating only a small amount at a time, which is typical of younger children.
Try a tune
We used the Once Upon a Potty video for our daughter. We sang the tune from the video all the time, especially when she went to the potty.
Sing their praises
We made up a little song that we sang every time our daughter sat on the potty. She loved it. When she finished, we would sing a different song identifying what she had done and telling her how proud we were of her. We also included several rounds of applause. It wasn’t too long before she used the potty every time! — Christie, North Carolina
Read together
Lucy and I went to the bookstore and she picked out five books she really liked. We called these the potty books, and she could read them only when she sat on the potty. — Amy, Michigan
Use a special potty
My second child caught on in two weeks. Her potty had a square in the bowl, which turned into a star every time fluid hit it. That was her big challenge, to make a star, and it became a game for her. — Angela, California
We found a wonderful training aid called Tinkletoonz. It plays happy music when hit with number one or number two. We had a lot of difficulty for several months, but this method worked like a dream. It is available at http://www.tinkletoonz.com. — Marion
Try a timer
My biggest help was to be consistent. We used a timer to help us both remember to go potty. We started with every 20 minutes, and as I could see he was needing to go less, gradually increased the time. Eventually, he would tell me he needed to go before the timer went off, or say he didn’t need to when it did. Then we’d set the timer for five or 10 more minutes and try again. — Amy, Utah
Set up target practice
We put a flushable item, such as Cheerios or Fruit Loops, in the toilet. (You can also use shaving cream or colored ice cubes.) The game for our son was to aim and shoot. Rewards were based on accuracy and number of downed Cheerios (Fruit Loops added the extra challenge of shooting a particular color). It was fun and challenging, and did wonders for his accuracy! With BMs, we told him the game was to send in the backup troops (no pun intended) to finish the job with torpedoes. I doubt this would work with girls, but Alex took less than a week to be fully day-trained. — Roxann, Massachusetts
The colored water trick
We dyed the toilet water with red or blue food coloring; it changes to orange or green and they love knowing that they did this. — Amy, Texas
Make them feel proud
With my daughter, I tried to focus on verbal praise: “What a big girl thing to do!” “You must be so proud of yourself.” “Do you want to call Grandma to tell her?” “Give me a high five!” — Kirsten, Washington
With our son, the best and most motivational reward was calling in the dog to look at what he’d done in the potty! — Sharon, Missouri
Use treats and surprises
Our daughter wasn’t very consistent with toilet training until we introduced the surprise bag. We got a bunch of inexpensive toys and stickers and put them in a colorful gift bag. Every time she used the toilet, we would clap and tell her what a great job she did and let her pick one surprise out of the bag. We kept it up for about a week and a half, and when the surprises ran out she just kept on using the potty. We continued to praise her and she quickly forgot the surprise bag. I can honestly say that toilet training was painless and quick with this method, and I plan to use it again with my next child. — Jamie, Washington D.C.
Whenever I hit a fast food drive-through, I would get a kids’ meal even if the kids weren’t with me, then I collected all the toys in a dark pillowcase (so it wouldn’t be see-through). When it came time to toilet train my 3-year-old son (an idea he was extremely resistant to), I would let him take one item from the pillowcase every time he went poop on the potty. This worked so quickly that within three weeks he was completely trained. Needless to say, this concept is not working for my daughter who just turned 3. Why not? I don’t get it. — Merita, Pennsylvania
We kept a container of our daughter Morgan’s favorite treat (M&Ms) on her dresser. If she successfully used the potty, she would receive three M&Ms (we’d let her pick the colors as well). Within a month she was using the potty regularly, with few accidents, and by age 2 1/2 she was trained. — Lisa, Pennsylvania
My 28-month-old really loved my nail polish. I found some at the grocery store that would come right off when she washed her hands, so I let my toddler paint her fingernails every time she peed in the potty. I told her that when she pooed she could have some of Mommy’s polish, which wouldn’t wash off, on one finger. Ten days later, she was completely potty trained. — Lisa, California
Celebrate with stickers
To encourage our son Alexander to use the potty, we put a drawing of a racetrack on the wall (an approach suggested by his preschool). Every time he used the potty he got to place a sticker on the racetrack. When the racetrack was filled with stickers, he got to pick a toy at the store as a reward. — Cheryl, Massachusetts
Put your child in charge
When my 18-month-old started going into the bathroom and closing the door, I knew she was about ready to toilet train. I would let her go in and use her potty, dump it into the big toilet, and put it up in the sink for me to rinse out. — Katherine, North Carolina
Make flushing fun
I began potty training my first child at about 20 months and am now in the process of training our second. One easy and excellent incentive is letting them flush the potty if they go. You need to establish a rule that this is the only time they get to flush. This is a simple and easy reward, and develops a needed habit. — Deanna, Iowa
Sitting solution
We put our son Nick on the big potty backwards. The potty-chair was too hard for him to use (without the little guard, he would pee on the floor, and with it, he had trouble sitting down because his legs were so chubby). My mother came up with the idea of putting him backwards. That way he automatically aimed in the right place, and he had the back of the toilet to hold on to. If he had to go poopy he just scooted his bottom up a little more toward the tank. He thought it was so funny he wanted to do it all the time. It took about a month, and he never had an accident after that. — Melissa, New York
Throw out the diapers
As a preschool teacher and mom, one of the best toilet training tips I can offer is to resist the temptation of using disposable “underwear,” such as Pull-Ups, all the time. The children don’t get uncomfortable when they are wet, and I’ve noticed that it severely prolongs potty training. Of course every child is different, but this is definitely a trend I’ve noticed while working with a gaggle of 20 2 1/2-year-olds! — Jenny, Kansas
I put painter’s plastic down on the carpets, then took off my 16-month-old’s diaper. There were a number of accidents, but the cleanups were quick and easy because of the plastic. She soon caught on and was happy not to be in uncomfortable diapers! — Carmen, Texas
I had my son pick out underwear with his favorite character, Thomas the Tank Engine, on them. Then I told him not to get Thomas wet. It worked immediately! — Mania, Michigan
My son was fully toilet trained at 3, except he wouldn’t go poo in the toilet. I tried everything, and asked everyone. Finally one day we were shopping and he asked for boxers. I told him that if we got these he would have to use the toilet or it would get all over the place. That seemed to be the magic thing because ever since then he has had no more accidents. — Maile, California
I let my daughter wear undies every day until naptime, but I put plastic pants over them to prevent messes. In the beginning she wet several times a day and didn’t like the feeling. I also gave her a nickel for her piggy every time she sat on the potty. She was trained by 20 months. — Rose, Pennsylvania
My daughter tortured me for months, using the potty successfully one day, then demanding diapers the next. Finally I told her that the pack of diapers we had just bought was the last, and I wasn’t buying any more. We then picked out training pants. When we got down to the last few diapers, I again emphasized that they were the last and when they were gone there wouldn’t be any more. We then went to training pants and to Drypers “sleeping undies” at night. She had a few accidents the first week and has been trained ever since! — Margaret, Massachusetts
Dress her in dresses
A little trick with girls: I put my girl in dresses for about three weeks while we were training. It was easier for her to get ready for the potty and allowed for quick decisions when she was in the middle of playing. — Lisa, Colorado
Give up to get results
Our daughter was 2 1/2 when we finally got her trained. We tried everything in the book. She wanted to wear underwear but not go to the potty. Finally we said, “Go ahead and do what you want.” Two days later, she started using the potty on her own, with no encouragement from us! — Tasha, Indiana
• She knows the words that your family uses in connection with toileting, such as “pee” and “poop.”
• She can get on and off of the toilet or the potty chair by herself and can raise and lower her pants unassisted.
• She generally understands and goes along with your verbal instructions. If your child typically won’t follow most of your instructions, you should work on that for now and wait to start toilet training.
For BabyCenter’s readiness checklist, click here.
It probably seems like just yesterday that you changed your baby’s first diaper, and now here you are wondering if it’s time to start toilet training. There’s no magic age at which toddlers are ready to start learning how to use the potty, but most develop the necessary physical and cognitive skills between 18 and 24 months of age (although some won’t be interested in the process until they’re closer to 3).
Use the checklist below to keep track of your toddler’s progress toward readiness. You don’t have to wait until you’ve checked off every item to start training. Just look for a general trend toward independence and an understanding of what it means to go to the bathroom like a grown-up.
Your child may be ready to start toilet training if he:
• Can walk and sit down
• Has regular bowel movements at relatively predictable times
• Can pull his pants up and down
• Shows interest in others’ bathroom habits (likes to watch you go to the bathroom, wants to wear underwear, etc.)
• Makes a physical demonstration when he’s having a bowel movement (grunting, squatting, telling you, etc.)
• Has words for stool and urine
• Can follow simple instructions, such as “Go get the toy”
• Understands the physical signals that mean he has to go and can tell you before it happens or hold it until he has time to get to the potty
• Dislikes the feeling of being in a dirty diaper
• Has “dry” periods of at least three or four hours
• Isn’t negative about — or resistant to — learning to use the toilet
• Understands the value of putting things where they belong
• Demonstrates a desire for independence
Are girls really easier to toilet train than boys?
Yes, although no one seems to know just why. In her book Toilet Learning, author Alison Mack says the difference may be at least partially due to the fact that moms tend to be the primary toilet-trainers in a family. If that’s the case, the skill may click a little sooner for girls because they have the advantage of observing someone with the same equipment.
Is there anything special I should know about toilet training my daughter?
The only gender-specific tip you need to know is a carryover from your diapering days: Wipe from front to back. As you teach your daughter all the steps of toilet training, make sure she knows to move the toilet paper from front to back when she wipes herself. This helps prevent bacteria from coming into contact with the sensitive skin of her vagina, keeping her infection-free.
FYI: Bladder infections, while not common, seem to be more likely in girls around the time of toilet training. If your daughter needs to urinate frequently, finds urination painful, wets her pants after having established good bladder control, has abdominal pain, or feels a sudden, urgent need to pee, call her healthcare provider.
What if she wants to try standing up?
If your daughter has seen her older brother, her father, or one of her friends from preschool or daycare stand tall at the toilet, she’ll more than likely want to give it a whirl as well. Let her. Sure, you’ll have to clean up a couple of messes, but she’ll probably get the idea fairly quickly that she doesn’t have the equipment to make it work, and you won’t have to engage her in a power struggle. If she persists, have her watch you and explain how mommies and their daughters like to sit down to pee.
Take away diapers and move onto panties – if she likes to be clean, she’ll hate having wet/poopy panties and pants all the time and maybe will be self-motivated? But, that will mean a lot more work for you for awhile.
We use mini m&ms for a reward – one for trying, two for potty, three for poop – I’m not a big reward person, but it’s been working wonders on my 2.5 year old (who doesn’t mind sitting in a poopy/wet diaper all day).